Thursday, May 28, 2009

Playing Favorites

Last week, Hubs accused me of blatantly favoring our older son. And at the time, I probably was. You see, some days he's just so much... easier. He wants to please. He wants to be The Good One. He's very agreeable. Helpful. Empathetic.
And the Belly, well... he's the Belly. Some days he's an absolute joy to be with. Other days he's argumentative, stubborn, selfish, willfully defiant.
(And all this time I'd thought he took after Hubs - I may be wrong here)

How do you balance that, especially when the kids are 5 years apart?

Had a really rough day today. Wanted nothing more than to watch a Korean horror movie with an extra large glass of red wine by my side. But my mom came knocking, she'd had a bad day and needed someone to unload on. And so I listened and commiserated. She finally left, but then I found out the dog peed a river on the floor, so instead of relaxing, I started floor cleaning. 15 minutes later I *finally* drop down on the couch, then Belly walks in and says, "I can't sleep. Please come and sit with me?"
I wanted to be mad and scold him, I did. But I couldn't. I took his tiny hand and led him back to bed, where I kissed his head and held him until he fell asleep.

Maybe in the end, this whole favoring thing all evens out.

Oh, and then there's Rob Pattinson....


carrie said...

oh my. the patz is looking freaking incredible.

and sorry you had a rough day. I favor my easier ones too.

Dawn said...

so i just love that i got you on the twilight band wagon. ;-)

and its hard not to favor a child at any given moment in time. but i believe it does even out.

Leanna said...

Oh Jess! Sorry you had a bad day (mine was yesterday...luckily hubby knew and made me a margarita)!

Honestly, it's easy to 'look' like you favor the easy one but in reality you just are not spending all your time with them having to discipline. My oldest, very laid back & EASY (so I get my 'space' & can enjoy him),the middle one demands attention ALL the time (in which I feel like I constantly have to ask him to go play so I can work) doesn't mean we love them any less. Don't beat yourself up, you are an awesome mom!

Veronica Garcia said...

LOL! had to end it with Rob Pattinson, huh?